So, in light of this week having been independent women’s day and mothers day in the same week, it only seems fitting to write about some of the most amazing women in my life. Or rather one woman in particular… my amazing, incredible, beautiful, inspirational mum.
Most people think their mum is the best mum, and quite rightly so. I think all mum’s are amazing women, but I think my mum is nothing other than the most incredible woman I have ever known, and it’s only right that you all know and understand just how amazing she really is, and why.
When I was younger, mainly a teenager, to say my mum and I didn’t see eye to eye would definitely be an understatement. It’s actually funny to think about now because we are so close these days, but by god there was a time when we couldn’t be left in the same room together. When I think about it now I think we were (and still are) far too alike, but we learnt how to get around the things that annoy us about ourselves in each other. It hasn’t always been easy, but now at 27 my mum is without a doubt my very best friend, and the most amazing and kind woman I have ever had the pleasure of having in my life.
When I was 15 I went from being a normal very sporty and active teenager, to not being able to walk, eat, or dress myself. It took 18 months before I was diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (also known as M.E), and it was one of many very difficult times in my life. Despite mum already having enough on her plate still ran me around to endless hospital appointments, helped me do the things I couldn’t do for myself, and fought to get me the answers I wasn’t getting from the medical professionals at the time. I missed my GCSE years at school so I also lost friends while everyone else’s lives moved on. It was around then that we realised that we had to find a way to see eye to eye. We did, and we have never looked back. I managed to go sixth form part time, and amazingly went to university which I was told that I would never be able to do. Mum through all of that probably should have several GCSE’s and A-level’s in a variety of subjects from helping me revise. She even supported my deciding the night before my art GCSE to completely change my project and sat with me until the early hours of the morning until it was done, despite being one of the least artistic people I have ever met!!
Through all of that, I am now a pretty healthy 27 year old, and I owe that completely to my mum. Without her, I honestly don’t know where I’d be. She is the most stubborn, strongest, most passionate and driven woman I have ever known. Her determination for me to succeed made me believe that I could do it, and made me want to do it, if not for myself, for her. Because of that, I defied all the odds and did the things that I was told I wouldn’t do, and achieved the things I was told I would never achieve and so much more!
I have watched my mum through some of the most difficult times come out stronger and more determined every time. Even the times when would be more than entitled to lie down and say “I’m done”, she has a moment, pulls herself together and carries on. It amazes me every time, but I learn so much from her every single day. I am honoured that I have been raised by such an incredibly strong woman, and she has taught me too how to be a strong, independent woman (with added finger wagging and sass of course!!) As well as that, mum has taught me how to be independent practically (spreadsheets for bills are actually really helpful!), to be kind to everyone, to always be honest (although apparently sometimes I’m too honest!), to have and keep a fire and determination for life, that you don’t need an occasion for a glass (or bottle) of wine, and also how to hang curtains with the threads at the top (I just by the ones with loops already in now, what a faff!)
Last year I got married, the most amazing day of my life, and I had the honour of wearing my mum’s garter on my wedding day which meant the world to me. The picture above is just one of the precious moments we had together while I was getting ready to marry the love of my life. Mum was there through all of the planning, stress, tears and ran around like a lunatic all day bless her.
It is important to remember that my mum is also my brother’s full time carer and Joe is the youngest of 4, yet she has done, and continues to do so much for us all and others. Mum (and dad) have always been there for each and every one of us for anything that we have ever needed at all the different stages in our lives. I know that no matter what, when the shit has really hit the fan, I can go to my mum and dad for advice or help without any judgement and some sound honest advice. Over the last few years I have really come to realise just how special this is, and how invaluable they are in my life.
If I could be even half of the woman my mum is, I think I’d be pretty damn amazing!! (Joking!). But seriously, I hope that I can even be a quarter of the woman that she is, and that if I am one day lucky enough to have my own children that I can raise them with the strength, support and love that I have been raised with.
Happy mothers day to all you mummy’s and mummy’s to be out there! ❤